Each parent in moments of joy, holding his crumb in his arms, thinks that he will educate him strong and wise, able to withstand life's misfortunes and, at the same time, obedient and respectful parent authority. But difficult times come, and with them moods, inadequate behavior, hysteria, violation of prohibitions and many other problems. And then wise thoughts give way to the desire to curb the child, and then repentance comes. Meanwhile, knowing about various methods of education of preschool children, an adult can quite agree with the child and achieve from him an informed correct behavior.
The method of persuasion is the main method in pedagogy. However, in order to follow it, parents must understand the true value of words. Convincing the child, it is impossible to use common phrases, to hypocrisy, to throw words to the wind, as this will cause only mistrust, disappointment, conflict, resentment and protest.
In order to successfully use this method of educating preschoolers,
And when the emotional discharge comes, the listener will be able to convey his ideas. Talk should strive to lead so that your words are deeply sunk in the soul of the child. Perhaps for this you will need to improve your knowledge in conducting conversation and persuasion.
When talking, the child should feel your confidence, awareness, objectivity, reasoning. Do not think that this is suitable only for grown-up children. Even one-year-old kids can respond to intonation.
From the point of view of pedagogy, this method of education for the preschooler is the least effective. In the last century, physical methods of punishment were applied to both children and adults. However, this method can have a traumatic effect on the personality of the child who is just being formed. Seeking obedience through such methods from a preschooler, parents can cause only horror in relation to their own person, as well as distrust of the world around them. In the future, the model of cruel behavior or the mode of action of the victim will be transferred to adulthood.
Psychologists recommend not resorting to this method of punishment without extreme necessity and, if possible, to influence the child in more humane ways.
Positive and negative reinforcement
Reinforcement operates at a reflex level, so even animals understand it, what can we say about children. And parents should not ignore this effective method of educating preschoolers, postponing their reactions to later, when the child himself will forget about his action. Reinforcement can be positive or negative.
- The method of positive reinforcement is the moral or material encouragement of good deeds. As soon as you notice the child's desired behavior, any achievement on his part, tell him affectionate and pleasant words, praise him, let him feel his importance and your positive emotions. In some cases, promotion can be tangible, for example, a candy, a toy, some actions on the part of an adult, but do not abuse such incentives.
- The method of negative reinforcement is a moral or physical punishment that follows negative actions. Psychologists note that it is important to criticize not the child and his personality, but only the act that he did: not "you are bad" but "you did bad".As punishment, you should not use physical labor, reading, and any other useful actions, unless you want unpleasant memories to be associated with them.
Children are very sensitive to lies and hypocrisy. And if you try to instill in them behavior that is not peculiar to you, then you should not expect success. Smoking parents are hardly convincing when they tell children about the dangers of cigarettes.
If you are a good role model, then you do not have to make much effort to teach your child moral and ethical principles. Speak the truth, give way to public transport to the elderly, politely greet and say goodbye to friends, do not use rude expressions - and the child will also behave like an educated person.
Preschool age is the time when a child acquires an initial experience of behavior. And since this period is under the control of parents, it depends on them how the child will relate to things, the environment, peers, relatives. Do not miss this moment, and you will be able to lay a moral foundation on which to build trustful, honest and healthy relationships between your child and the world around you.